What Would You Do When You Made Mistakes?

 

Humans always make mistakes. Some of them were small. Some of them were big enough to ruin the whole day. Or maybe the whole week. Or bigger. We are human. We did mistakes over and over again. We did the unforgivable mistakes, unacceptable mistakes, non-logical mistakes. We even did at least one foolish mistake! Oh, common. How can ahh you call yourself brilliant? Huha. The same goes here. We both overdid, and we both will repent. Insya Allah. Don’t wait for tomorrow, because the sun may rise tomorrow but you don’t. Yeah, we are human but then it is not a reason why we keep hurting others and why we act so selfish. And definitely not the reason why we keep giving fat and cholesterol to our nafs and follow the syaitan’s path.

What kind of mistakes that we made? And related to whom? You know, keep crying over a spilled cool blog will not make you can drink it again. Unless la you lick it. Kidding. You just have to buy a new one at other time. Same goes when things happened, there’s no need to cry day and night. It will not change a thing. Make a move. At least say you are sorry if you hurt others. At least say Astaghfirullah if you commit a sin. And sure remind your heart not to do it ever again. Yeah, it is not easy to forget about the past. Who says? Who says it is easy like counting 1 2 3? There are some wounds that we have to take with us forever. There are some  past that we hate to glance back, but they keep replaying and rewinding in our minds. Of course, it caused some craziness. But there are also some mistakes that could make us smile, right? Huh, that one sure we have no regret about.

You know, we are brilliant not because we never did mistake, but because we learned from the mistakes. So, the first step is about acknowledging your own self. No matter how huge the mistakes are, how deep the damage is, but then try to accept and acknowledge ourselves. Accept. And forgive your own self. A strong person is someone that can forgive and accept his own self. Do not deceive yourself. There is no such perfection in this world. But we will always try to improve ourselves for our own satisfaction. 

And please do not blame yourself. You are just adding a burden to your soul. Like I said, accept. Try to accept the things that had happened. And you know what, it is kind of super nerve hectic wrecking if we hate ourselves. I tried it before. And I even blamed others for the mistakes I’d done. I even put the blame on me when I have nothing to do with those things. One word. Useless. It is just like running in a circle, we can’t get to anywhere. A tiresome moment isn’t it? Too much hate will consume you. Remember that. Never allow your emotions to lead your heart. You will regret it later. So, like I said before, try to acknowledge and forgive yourself.

Second, of course about asking forgiveness. From God and from the people we’ve wronged. It may not heal the damage we made, but trust me, it will make it better a bit. Why? We admit our mistakes and abandon our Ego. Yeah, not all the people can say I’m sorry easily even they were definitely wrong. They took too long to acknowledge and admit their mistakes. Sigh. We all have an ego problem. Let's fix it. Do you ever feel shame to ask forgiveness from Allah? Erm huh, there are times I said, let's stop. You ask forgiveness and repeat the mistakes again. And then you ask  His forgiveness again. “Tolongla malu siket.” There were times that I didn’t want to face Him again because I felt so shame deep in my heart. I committed sins and repent and commit again again and again. But then, I told myself, so why Allah does tell us that His door is open till the sunrise from the west? Why  Allah does tell us that He is the Most Forgiving? Why Allah does tell us that if we are walking towards Him, He will be running to us? Allah knows how much we struggle to do good. Allah knows how hard we strive to abandon what we like but Allah doesn’t. Allah knows how easily we fall into the syaitan’s trap. Allah knows. And Allah keeps accepting and calling me and you. He guides me to the straight path even I tried to run from it before. But then I believe there is only one path that can save you from hell. Seek refuge from Allah.

And last but not least, do not tell others our mistakes. Heyy, who wants to open the pekung at their own body? Even we are not supposed to tell others mistakes to someone else, right? Save it for yourself and make a reflection when the day ends. Learn from our mistakes. We always fear to  fall and make mistakes more than we fear Allah. My friend said, the harder we fall the higher we bounce. If only we choose to bounce back. Even the sword is sharpened by heat and fire. Endure and accept. Live with no useless regret la, my friends. When we made a wrong decision, turn to Allah. When we follow the wrong path, turn to Allah. When we broke our promise, turn to Allah. Allah has the answer to all the questions and solutions. And yeah my friend, think before speak and act. We are not made to make mistakes and said Oh, sorry. Tak sengaja. We always have a choice. (Rarely je we are not given a choice) So choose to or to not wisely because death is inevitable and life is short. The past is the most faraway thing from us and the death is always getting closer and closer second by second.

So, guys. I am sorry for all those bad things that happened. I will upgrade myself insya Allah. We both will. So that we can live in peace in the life after death. Barakallahu Fiikum.

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